Oh, adolescence! This stage of changes in your children (as) brings many mixed emotions and also, a lot of negativity. Negative comments or simply “no” are the menu of each day. How to deal with the negativity of adolescents?
For Laura’s parents, although her comments are hurtful, it is a stage that will fortunately end some day. However, Laura has become very negative, complains about everything, likes nothing and has an expression of constant discontent in her face. This causes stress to their parents and tires them emotionally.
What to do to deal with the negativity of the adolescent?
First, understand that it is a stage of rebellion against parents, because they are growing and need to feel independent. They can shut themselves emotionally and not tell you that they had a bad time at school. However, the way you express it can be criticizing the food you prepared or saying that they do not want to go for a walk the weekend because it seems boring.
That is, despite the fact that they express it negatively, at least they are letting go of their worries and fears in some way. The key is that parents do not react to this negativity with anxiety and stress, because it creates a vicious circle.
Here are some tips to overcome this situation at home:
- Your child is a being independent of you. That is to say, that you are not responsible for their feelings and their behaviors, even though you feel that way. Understanding that is an individual that does not resemble anyone, makes you accept it as it is and not demand it be something that is not. Of course, always within the limits of the values that you have instilled in him and giving him to understand that his negativity affects everyone. Although you can not choose how they feel about a situation, you can choose how to react to those feelings.
- Do not react negatively to your negativity. For example, if your child says that the clothes you bought is horrible, just tell him that you feel he does not like it and that he can change it. Do not react, just listen.
- Put a limit on complaints. If your child complains about everything and only talks about it, tell him that it’s enough, that you can only hear one negative thing a day and try to focus on some activity that distracts him from that bad mood. Change the subject and ask about something positive that happened that day.
- Find a quiet moment to talk with your teenage son. Maybe then you can understand what really worries you. Open communication paths and help him / her.
- And finally, do not lose your patience! Remember that adolescence is a difficult period of physical and emotional changes. Your child needs a lot of love and this stage will pass.
If you feel that some situation is out of your hands, seek professional help. A psychologist can help you deal with the negativity of your adolescent child without wavering or giving up in the attempt.